A Christian Marriage Can still hurt!

Did you know if this is you are not alone and neither I he!

Every single guy is faces daily with the choice to take that second glance

Moreover, almost every Christian even pastors are either Fighting or fooling in hard core Porn.

If this is you peaking around the door for the first time, it can be a very overwhelming, and emotional. A moment that can either destroy of feed your future faith and love. Believe it or not, most guys are not doing it because they hate you or think you are ugly. They do it because it feels good, kind of like other things they do alone, that would be better done with you. Whether it is masturbating alone or eyeballing the tight pants crossing the street or flipping through the pages of naked girls or other it is not God’s design but now what.

Firstly Love

If this is you, you need to get your heart right. First thing you must do is; stop, and forgive them, right now, unconditional, without reservation. Now you can go in the room. The first thing you will notice is that even though you are deeply hurting your heart is aching because of your love for him. Quietly walk up even if the fingers are flying to shut it down, and he is starting to get defensive, making excuses or even lying. Before you utter a word, Give him a hug, and say do you know how much I love you! 

Secondly, Be filled gentle grace

Realize that

  • They already know what they are doing you don’t have to ask, or tell them!
  • As a Christian, they are ashamed of it!
  • Know that they really don’t want to keep this up, but do not know how to quite.

The key to solving this problem is in finding unhindered communication, being able to talk about his feelings, and what he is looking at in somewhat detail. He has to become vulnerable. Nevertheless, I guarantee this he will not even open his mouth if he feels of finds judgment instead of encouraging love, Love to help and change

When he knows you are with him and for him and not against him this will happen

Thirdly be vulnerable with each other

Start sharing openly about your mistakes, your failures, you weaknesses. This can hurt but in love and prayer, forgiving first without reservation I can heal as you can finally see him through the father’s eyes past your pain. Agree to go to each other when you fall to hold one another, share, and forgive not later, not now, before! You need to be his accountability partner, this is you job first not his friends. You are not fighting alone but together, not against each other, but for each other. This may not be easy, it may mean removing together the thing that most tempts. Whether it is internet or changing jobs so they don’t have to deal with the tall stack of trash in the box in front of the toilette. This is not an easy fight ladies it is a hard battle but with God’s love you can do this, they can do this and with His help and wisdom

 “You Will Win “!